How to make sure you don’t fall victim to the same “slut shaming” trap that you’re used to seeing on the internet, this article is here to help.
If you’ve seen this type of shaming on the net before, it’s probably because you’ve been on a dating app, and you’ve decided to go the route of dating someone on that dating app.
This isn’t to say that dating apps aren’t dangerous, but I’m going to give you the advice I’ve learned over the years that should help you avoid falling prey to the “sluts” trap.
Here are the eight rules that you can use to avoid “sluttiness” in your dating life.
Rule #1: Don’t be afraid to let a person know when you think they’re a slut.
I know I’m probably the only one who’s ever felt that way, and I’ve been pretty damn lucky to have had such supportive friends who have told me that they have no problem with me dating a “slatty” person.
If someone on the dating app is going to make a decision to date you, it should be based on the following criteria: 1.
They have no other choice, regardless of how slutty you are.
They don’t have to date anyone at all, regardless how sluty you are, but it’s not necessary for them to date me. 3.
They aren’t too hot to date, and it wouldn’t hurt to go out with them.
They’re not dating me for any other reason than because I’m the only “slate” option available, and they want to date someone else instead.
They wouldn’t mind dating a guy if they were a slut themselves.
They can’t date me because they don’t like me.
Rule 2: Be open about it.
You may think you’re the “nice guy” in their life, but when you’re dating, the world is your oyster.
It’s okay to tell them that you have a lot of thoughts about them, but don’t be shy about it!
If they say “I can’t be with you,” you can ask them why.
If they want you to get off, they can say “but I can’t do that, I’m too busy dating someone else.”
If you do feel the need to ask, tell them to stop by your place of work or home, or even make a point of calling them and asking.
This will let you know that you care about them and aren’t going to get upset if they’re not going to come around.
Rule 3: Don, don’t get mad.
You’re dating someone you don�t want to be with. It doesn�t have to be that way.
Some people have great relationships with others, and some people don’t.
This is the kind of dating that will work for you, but if you’re in a monogamous relationship, it might be a good idea to start asking questions like “how is it you could be so bad at dating other guys, but not me?”
Rule 4: Don�t ever make it about yourself.
If a guy says something sexist or inappropriate, and he doesn’t get offended or embarrassed, that�s not the end of the world.
It�s okay to say “you don�re wrong, you should’ve listened to me when I said that.”
But if he says something rude or gross about you or your body, and the comment turns out to be true, then don’t let that be a reason to be ashamed.
It may not be your fault, but you can never take it back.
Rule 5: Be honest.
You can be honest about any aspect of your dating experience, but be sure to be as upfront as possible about the comments you made to your date.
You don�’t want to say anything like, “I was in the shower and I didn’t really think about it until I came back.”
But don�m let that fool you.
The last thing you want is for them not to like your body and/or your personality, so you need to be upfront about it and be open about any concerns you may have.
Rule 6: Don.�t be ashamed of who you are or what you do.
The internet has given us so much, and if you feel like you need a little extra validation, take some time to take stock of who and what you are and what the world expects of you.
If there are things you think you know about yourself that you haven’t told them, you can always use that to your advantage by explaining why.
Rule 7: Don`t be afraid of expressing your feelings.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be ashamed for being the “good girl” in the room, but your body is your business, and your emotions are your business too.
This can include feelings like shame, hurt, and guilt.
If these feelings get in the way of being a good person, you